You may find the resources on this page a helpful start to getting the support you need:

Self help

Types of self help:

  • Try to get some sleep  
  • Healthy eating
  • Exercise and fresh air
  • Ask for help from friends and family
  • Socialise and develop support networks like mother and baby groups, online or peer support
  • Take time to relax if only for a few minutes
  • Be kind to yourself - increasing compassion towards yourself builds confidence and wellbeing.

Additional self-help information: Helping-Yourself-Perinatal.pdf [pdf] 298KB

We are often supportive, understanding and compassionate to others, but are much harsher and critical towards ourselves in the same situation. Learning to be more compassionate with ourselves leads to a calmer mind, better relationships, less anxiety, and increased sense of self-worth.

There are a variety of compassionate exercises on this website:

And a number of videos about increasing self-compassion:

This video provides an introduction to old and new brain idea in Compassion Focused Therapy:

A compassionate breathing exercise is available here:







Asking for help

If you are struggling with a mental health problems like depression or anxiety, it is important that you ask for help from friends, family or your midwife, health visitor, GP or make a referral to Self Help services. You can also contact one of the services below:

  • Home-Start - A local family support charity who recruit and train local parent volunteers to provide weekly emotional and practical home visiting support to families with at least one child under the age of 5 years.
  • Dad’s Matter:
  • Finding Rainbows for parents affected by baby loss
  • SPOONS for parents with babies who are premature:
  • OKE for parents with babies who have additional needs:
  • Support for parents having twins/multiple births:
  • Proud 2B Parents, is a LGBT organisation supporting parents: P2b parents service guide.pdf [pdf] 5MB
  • Sands for parents affected by stillbirth and neonatal death:
  • Peanut app and Mush app: Social networking apps both designed to help mothers connect with other mothers in their local areas and access helpful advice.
  • Gingerbread, supporting single parent families:
  • Baby buddy: Emotional Support by text targeting parents and expectant parents. SHOUT crisis support text service have teamed up with Baby Buddy to develop text crisis support for people during the perinatal period. Text  BABYBUDDY to 85258.
  • FamilyLine supports adult family members with parenting questions or guidance around more complex issues, by using a network of volunteers from across the country, through telephone calls, email, web chat and text message. Please visit FamilyLine for more information.
  • The LGBT Mummies tribe: - provide LGBT+ women and people information, guidance & knowledge on the different paths to parenthood through their website, social channels & support groups.   
  • Seashell: supports children and young adults with complex learning difficulties, disabilities, and additional communication needs from across the UK - providing education, care, and support for people aged from 2 to 25 years.

If you feel that you are in a crisis situation and unable to attend to your family’s needs or unable to keep your family safe from harm, it is important to seek urgent support from social care services. They can work with you to consider what support you need to help you and your family move forward positively.

As a patient

As a service user, relative or carer using our services, sometimes you may need to turn to someone for help, advice, and support. 

Find resources for carers and service users  Contact the Trust